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There come to us moments in life when about some things we need no proof from without. A little voice within us tells us, 'You are on the right track, move neither to your left nor right, but keep to the straight and narrow way.

A person falsely claiming to act under divine inspiration or the promptings of the inner voice without having any such, will fare worse than the one falsely claiming to act under the authority of an earthly sovereign. Whereas the latter on being exposed will escape with injury to his body, the former may perish body and soul together.

You have to believe no one but yourselves. You must try to listen to the inner voice, but if you will not have the expression"inner voice", you may use the expression "dictates of reason", which you should obey, and if you will not parade God, I have no doubt you will parade something else which in the end will prove to be God, for, fortunately, there is no one and nothing else but God in this universe.

For me truth is the sovereign principle, which includes numerous other principles. This truth is not only truthfulness in word, but truthfulness in thought also, and not only the relative truth of our conception, but the Absolute Truth, the Eternal Principle, that is God. There are innumerable definitions of God, because His manifestations are innumerable. They overwhelm me with wonder and awe and for a moment stun me.
















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DonInLondon - ĎDay In the Lifeí Letting Go Takes Its Toll and Time

Time

Sometimes it is only time which makes our endeavours right and real. Patience they say is a virtue. Yet these days I can be as impatient as anyone. And also chasing pipe dreams too.

Time affords wisdom and helps us find our choices and our path. Always it seems we feel the need of companionship. And often we let people in too early simply because we are lonely. Being alone most of the time I am ok. Yet there are moments, which fair take my breathe away, and I indulge in wishful thinking and loneliness.

My thinking needs more information, so this sunny morning I am off to an AA meeting not far away. Company is good, and then my idle thoughts will get more shape and focus.

An email to a friend below explains some of my feelings this morning. As they may be.

Hi [xxxxxx]

Thank you for taking the time to explain more fully what has been happening in recent times.

You may not have seen the reply which was made without details of names, where and when, and what a person might consider doing in these circumstances.

First and foremost, I feel it is important to make sure we get the right boundaries around situations and then wonder what we may do to resolve the particular, rather than resolve all the issues at once.

This is the hardest as we live complicated lives, with complicated outcomes.

As we live life, it is so simple if we can make it so, and so complicated because we often give ourselves a break and also give others a break when they are not in their right mind.

As you have discovered and really its very unhappy outcome to find we may have invested a lot of time, made it possible for another to misbehave towards us and generally make us the bedrock not just of the changes they need to make, worse they use us as the punch bag, either verbal or physical. And then we have maybe let them go on too long as we hope for better times and changes which benefit both ourselves and them.

Sorrow

Sorrow is real when endings come. When we feel sorrow as a normal human under stress and need grieve loss, its not self pity, it is just sorrow, and then all the hard parts around grief.

Grief

As we learn loss, the anger, the denial and ĎI canít believe ití feelings give way to frustration, anger, depressing experiences and then when we are more robust we let go as we may and move on

Years

Sometimes grief for loss and letting go is for years. The deeper our feelings of sorrow the longer we are likely to feel awful and go through this cycle of grief, for the living who left, and the dead and departed. Both ways grief hurts, and worse with people we have loved or still love those who are lost to us and still alive.

Self Pity

Self Pity comes from our anger, sorrow from our inner strength and confidence. We can do both self pity and sorrow, for the same person or different people.

What We Feel

The awfulness of this grieving process is we often realise those we grieve for have moved along either to death or for the living, to other people and places. They donít fear our grief.

What Others Feel

As we grieve others we are often angry that their outlook if they are still about and its hard to accept, and we donít like the mess of breaking up. And of course abusive words or abusive behaviour is often like any animal of nature, to chase us away, and make us find our own new path.

Can we Reconcile and Get People Back?

It really does depend on the other people we may have lost to time. The truth of this is its unlikely once a person has lost their love for us and no longer wants companionship, its better to let go.

Let Go

Really departing people do us a favour. And actually we can thank them once we are clear of grief or the harshness has worn away from these early times. This took me years to appreciate as my grieving over the years, was genuine sorrow a lot of the time and then self pity as well as I felt so broken for many a year.

Abuse

Verbal or physical is never acceptable in my opinion. I have encountered partners in my life who could only connect to me through abusive behaviour, especially around love and intimacy. Either I packed my bags and ran, or they were let go as soon as. I cannot do abuse at all in relationships and was horrified I could be sucked into tolerating and then worse joining in. It broke me quicker I am relieved to write. No one need bully or abuse, its just not good.

We Can Love a Person and Hate Their Behaviour

This is the conflict we often find. We can love deeply and see flaws and stick around too long to feel more pain, which takes its toll on us. We love someone who is not with us or that real to themselves. Although the outcome is real, love abused and lost unrequited as the abuser is not loving in truth, just abusing.

What we can do?

Get help, support, talk find friends to share our feelings. Let go the pain as nature and time allow. We need grieve even the bad of living and sometimes the good is simply moving on.

Sponsors in AA

Ordinary people with difficult outlooks often. Learning how to be human. Some are controlling and project all their values, which is not good sponsoring, itís the opposite of sponsoring. Its codependence, the absolute pits where control and power is abused most likely.

Interdependence

Sponsors and people. All the same, where we find interdependence we may find a great connection and help and support and love too.

Love is behind everything I seem to find these days. It may seem old hat, and it is. Love is forever and in most of us. We need nurture it for ourselves and others.

I realise there are no answers in what I write specifically to you.

And it really is about you and me, we make our choices. We can love wisely? I doubt that actually, nature can draw us one way or another.

Nurture

We can feel and think our way, a path where we know what we accept and donít accept from others.

Experience

You know, all experience has its place. If we survive and learn to cherish, we are on a path of good living. If we learn to live superficially and with conditions which alter our interdependence with others, we can be 'unglued' in no time and be scared to let go. What hurts and fascinates and make us stick where we are best to let go very often because of our living and our history.

When we learn all over again, it seems unfair and really makes us boil inside. Yet the truth is we have space as we let go.

Let Go

I seem to say this frequently. Its my reminder to me to keep safe. All I need do is let go.

The Gap

As we get the gap, we can recuperate, indulge out best way to live, find our own inner peace. The gap fills then with the good of us and whatever sorrow we have is for times past, not times present.

Endeavour

What would life be without it? I realise these days the journey, the moments we learn again, the choices become more informed, and we greet life differently. With room for us to grow as humans and not as some adjunct to anotherís misunderstandings on life. We let them go in peace, and close that door as best we can. The door opens and closes as many times it takes for us to accept the truth we experience today.

Best it is so.

And as you mentioned You Tube - I started expressing my views and understandings made on life. It has been cathartic and helpful to me. I cannot make recommendations on whether this is good or bad to do. I do enjoy it in my own way.

Where we are unhappy with others its best often, to find help and support as we change our outlook.

Progress

We humans, we make progress. This human, me, is slow and steady these days.




2nd November 2006 [All About Last Year]

Day by day we breathe new life

Indeed what a day, was it typical or just the way it was meant to be. In my living I tend to let the day be whatever it will, not my will. Sort of letting the day flow and take me where it may. I help people a lot. And find there are many who appreciate some help. And what of me?

Simply I am knackered and have been listening for a few days, so my head is full and it needs no more poured in till I let it all out. Sometimes we need a quiet day. And being suspicious of quiet days I go out and do something. Is there a gap in me? Not presently, and yet I know there may be a gaping hole in times future. Inevitable for me.

Long chats last night depleted my capacities. And left me wondering about some things to do with me. Not too deep as there was little room for me in my noodle.

Watching news of far flung places and closer to home, the chaos of life and little serenity in it for anyone. We seem over populated and driven by want and not needs. Wants so strong the needs of life forgotten.

Simple small things were difficult to do. And motivation was missing. And my temper is on a short fuse. I donít have much in the temper department usually, but I can feel the prickle of disaffection.

Connection to life is everything and keeping connected to life means being out there and involved. Not spending large volumes of time trying to think it one way or another. Living and doing and helping and supporting and hold on, there is time for me in this isnít there? I need be careful with these next few days or I will forget myself. And my philosophies..

Forgetful of self? Is a virtue, as long as there is balance. Being of service is of great value, as long as service is not measured or left as debt. For me it is never in debt. And there is still the balance to be found as always in these matters. Care needed and for all concerned. Carefully we find our path as we move along the journey of life.

It beats the roller coaster life spent for decades past. And now those decades pay their debt to me in new living. A day at a timeÖ

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Ghandi

There come to us moments in life when about some things we need no proof from without. A little voice within us tells us, 'You are on the right track, move neither to your left nor right, but keep to the straight and narrow way.

A person falsely claiming to act under divine inspiration or the promptings of the inner voice without having any such, will fare worse than the one falsely claiming to act under the authority of an earthly sovereign. Whereas the latter on being exposed will escape with injury to his body, the former may perish body and soul together.

You have to believe no one but yourselves. You must try to listen to the inner voice, but if you will not have the expression"inner voice", you may use the expression "dictates of reason", which you should obey, and if you will not parade God, I have no doubt you will parade something else which in the end will prove to be God, for, fortunately, there is no one and nothing else but God in this universe.

For me truth is the sovereign principle, which includes numerous other principles. This truth is not only truthfulness in word, but truthfulness in thought also, and not only the relative truth of our conception, but the Absolute Truth, the Eternal Principle, that is God. There are innumerable definitions of God, because His manifestations are innumerable. They overwhelm me with wonder and awe and for a moment stun me.



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