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There come to us moments in life when about some things we need no proof from without. A little voice within us tells us, 'You are on the right track, move neither to your left nor right, but keep to the straight and narrow way.

A person falsely claiming to act under divine inspiration or the promptings of the inner voice without having any such, will fare worse than the one falsely claiming to act under the authority of an earthly sovereign. Whereas the latter on being exposed will escape with injury to his body, the former may perish body and soul together.

You have to believe no one but yourselves. You must try to listen to the inner voice, but if you will not have the expression"inner voice", you may use the expression "dictates of reason", which you should obey, and if you will not parade God, I have no doubt you will parade something else which in the end will prove to be God, for, fortunately, there is no one and nothing else but God in this universe.

For me truth is the sovereign principle, which includes numerous other principles. This truth is not only truthfulness in word, but truthfulness in thought also, and not only the relative truth of our conception, but the Absolute Truth, the Eternal Principle, that is God. There are innumerable definitions of God, because His manifestations are innumerable. They overwhelm me with wonder and awe and for a moment stun me.









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Denial

No doubt anyone faced with the truth of difficult situations feels like exclaiming "I can’t believe it!" Loss brings on the feeling of denial, from losing something like a bunch of keys, to those chilling moments where we experience loss of a loved one.

The degree of denial for loss of small things we overcome and get on with an ease most people feel as normal and everyday. It is the big losses we have trouble with. Loss of love, a break up with a partner, the death of a relative.

Denial keeps us safe a while as we try make sense of life itself. We need denial to help us cope with everyday, and the less than everyday big events of living and dying.

Denial of Truth

Sometimes we need to have moments almost of morbid thoughts and feelings as we cannot see life going on at all, the heartbreak moments especially with death, and easily as hard is when we divorce ourselves from others company and worse when its us left high and dry.

Denial Kept me Safe a While

When Grandparents died I felt their loss and was sad. When my father died, I could hardly believe him gone, and it took time to recover my senses. And painful endings to relationships over the years when it was me left hurt like nothing else. And when I left relationships the relief was as strong in letting go as ever it could be to be free and not in denial of something not working. It works this denial of truth, as long as we recognise what is going on.

Denial kept me Addicted to?

Career, Women, Alcohol, Health and Fitness and so on and on and on. And then alcohol…

Which comes as first choice in denial for me? Love of course.

Love and Denial

Love is top of the tree when it comes to denial. When we lose love, or suspect we might have lost love, its denial we utilise most often. And behind denial is fear. Fear that time has moved us on and changes have happened we neither want nor care for.

Love

The essence of living and being well in our minds, emotionally and spiritually and in our physical being too. Love does make the world go round as much as make it stop as we want to turn back the clock to where the good times rolled on.

Change and Adapting As Time Goes By

As we come to terms with our disbelief, our anger at changes, our frustration as our self will makes no difference, and we overcome depressed feelings, we come through to accept even the worst of truths about change.

Addictions are Torments

Addiction a disease of mind body and spirit, where we get stuck and cannot break free…

Those times are the hardest. And people do break down from a broken heart, no love just fear. No room for change as the world has gone black in depression and nothing shifts us out of the slump. Dark times follow as we are held in the sway of denials and our outlook gets so small we cannot cope with life at all. Addiction was a key to survive until the addiction would kills us stone dead sometime, sooner or later.

Self Obsession

As Addiction grips there is no outside world, just a self obsession of loathing of fear and entrapment in a dark world we make big as our senses shrink and its so small we cannot break free, a black hole of living.

Redemption and No cure

There is no cure for addiction, we can be in recovery from all we have lost.
Recovering from loss of love as new love comes along. We never really forget our old love and may not as they were or it was what get us motivated and loved. As simple as. We let go those we have lost and cherish memories as we need do.

Redemption from addictions: Its hard to see clearly through our own prejudice, the prejudice the world throws at addicts and then we throw ourselves away before the world has time to do it for us. The loss and sadness and melancholy of desolation, that is addiction as our best friend squeezes us dry of any human element we might hold dear. And denial of our part in it, until we redeem some basic human qualities and good conscience.

The River of Denial

We need flow where it may take us. If we are drowning in our woe we can never come up and out for air, or love, or just enough grit to find something to hold on to.

AA gave me a thread, then some strands and then some idea of recovering my feelings and wits as a path followed from death and darkness to some lighter moments and a few steps to take to make a life start again.

Bleak Times

In those bleak years where I utilised every coping mechanism to survive, the damage and toll on me and those who cared about me, makes for grim reflections. At least for now and today those bleak years, those sad outlooks and blackness where denial of my addictions bound me and imprisoned me are never forgotten.

And Today
Just for the day, I am free..



August 8 2006

Going boldly wherever we may Go

So… I guess most of us do go quite boldly wherever we may go, and it’s the journey often, not the destination which we need to apply ourselves. I sometimes wonder for this insomniac if my bold journey may be to sleep these days. Awake again from early hours, just an hour or two of sleep. Its been this way for months now. And I have accepted it as part of this current phenomena in recovery.

And what of the other things I am dealing with? Recovery for me at the moment is really very absorbing as learning to be myself is an industry in itself. Industrious to the last, I wonder how it will turn out over the next few months.

Up early and writing yesterday and then showered and out to hospital for blood tests. The waiting and the queuing, no matter how early it seems the queues are there for tests. I now realise the resources are forever stretched in our health system wherever I may go. And I need to work out what that means for me. As queuing is another thing I need be used to. I have to change my diet and include wheat for a few days now and then have more blood tests. To see if I am wheat intolerant. Another element to find out what’s up with digestion.

And I need go back for x rays on my back, as its chaotic functioning has laid me low for years now. At last my GP seemed to reckon it worthy of more investigation. A locums opinion as she moves on, and then I have my usual GP who has opinions about me, and I don’t reckon much to her opinion in truth, as she is often dismissive of everything as age related or somehow related to something and I might not worry about it. And I don’t worry about it fortunately. But it seems to me GP’s under pressure are generally dismissive these days and give me handouts on conditions I live and know as if I were a child. I don’t relish these moments!

And during the day I meet fellows from my fellowship, full of issues and thoughts and we talk. And we talk more about the issues, and resolve to action where it can be, and not to action, where responsibility lies elsewhere. it’s a long game in our fellowship and we tend to want to fix things we realise need fixing, rather than let others who will learn from experience fix things as time allows them.

Sometimes we need to step back and let others learn from their experiences or they never learn. Our judgment useless to us as other learn the bitter sweet life we have.

Last night, well just a few hours ago, I was asked to chair a meeting. And my reaction has been to say no of late for multitudes of reasons. The multitude of reasons are really a lot to do with the recovery from hard times and hard knocks and what I used to be and do. A speaker to groups and in public, a shy speaker yet confident when I realise I know what I can say. And in our fellowship we can say what we feel and please to say.
A perfect opportunity to do what, with a chair and meeting ? I will have a topic to share, and know it well. Its about a step we all work in fellowship and then let go of its nature and content as we move on to other steps of living.

I am still puzzled by my reticence and chairing meetings. There are elements with stress and public utterances which do bother me. At the same time, I do believe my voice is equal to others voices and would prefer to hear theirs and not mine. And there is a part of me, and happy to acknowledge, my learning is a progression and not a perfect answer. Yet I wish I knew more of living my life now before attempting what is asked.

And having said no, now I say yes, for indeed having spoken with a long time player in our game, I realise it matters not where we are in our stepping stones to better living, our experience strength and hope count, and we learn back from what is shared. Our whole process a living process of experience and changing attitudes to now. And I will go ahead even though perfection is a lifetimes journey away, in fact an eternity away. Even with the gift of immortality I recognise there is no perfect study. And wrote extensively, summing up that perfection in my view is quite an unfinished work! Just like nature and providence, the march of time merely stamps us with where we have got to and not beyond.
It seems many of my interactions around fellowship occur as much if not more outside our meeting focus. And in those mini meets and debated, much experience and wisdom is shared beyond the main event. It was ever so in my days as adviser and leader of events in past times and work.
And still I feel discomfort, at the same time accept discomfort, as this is changing me again, sometimes slowly and sometimes quickly. I am willing to try. And see where it leads.

Actually, there is a sea change in where and what will happen next as time moves on and I accept natures hand in what I can do and cannot do as before. The adjustments have been as long as time permits to get back to other living too. I see my world opening again as even with some obvious constraints, anything is possible if we have a willing heart, and keep open to the possibilities of living. And the step I will talk about is close to my philosophy of honesty.

And maybe I am wondering how honest I am these days with myself. As denial and other elements of living processes have gouged great lumps out of me over years and years of being less than I really am. This less than syndrome, the bully’s hook into the sensitive types who live this life. We who toil relentlessly as if driven mad, work till we can give no more and give our last drop of energy to any project where we might become a doer or a leader. Those times are always close as the inner me is used to working till the last moment to deliver the impossible on time as near perfect, perfect.

And as I accept the rough years, and changing attitudes and behaviours in me, what do I find? That nature made me so, to be this way and that, and actually I return to more comfortable patterns of living and doing. And willing to do more.

This willingness, it needs to be tempered in what is right for me, and I need be mindful how willingness in past times had led me to dangerous excess in all respects. And with mentoring I will find balance to make good these honourable aims and doings. I need not flog myself to near death again and still make good my contribution however it turns out.
I am willing, and flexible. I am also absolutely tired out. And wonder how to take on more right now. Its almost close to danger, as time is telling me to shift my focus to other matters. And yet nothing gives right now. No respite from my daily routines which keep me going, as if we squeeze them round other matters. And I cannot afford a careless slip in my regime as was made so obvious the other night, as it will surely do me in. And I don’t refer here to addictive slips, I refer to daily maintenance and making sure I keep on top of routine living and regular testing of how I am. I need work at it and be willing and be mindful what it all means.
I also know its important to work on what I can do daily, and not project too far ahead of where I might end up, or all is lost and no serenity in my daily maintenance and helping others along the way.

I had to smile today. It is a question often asked these days of bachelors my age, I was asked if I were gay. Then the questioner was sorry for asking in case I was offended by the nature of that enquiry. I was not offended and answered truthfully. And then they asked me why I am not married, and to me these days its obvious, its only now as I grow up and see the real me, how on earth could anyone see me as a partner for living their whole life long? And only one has confessed this truth and rightly ruled it out I now know in these last few days…

And as this was asked of me indirectly by another the day before, I wonder why these questions have been coming up more often in recent times. And questions about whether I have children from prior relationships.

To be asked these questions with more frequency makes me wonder what people are seeing in me. And also what I now know about myself and matters of the heart…

Well maybe all I know these days, if I had my head on younger shoulders and in other times, I reckon a husbands role and to be a father would have suited me just fine. And now? Well now, it feels too late to be a father in this respect and time has made me see the possibility and all it entails and maybe its not my time anymore, well not in this life I guess. Who knows? I know with hindsight’s clever gift to parenthood and loving and partnerships…

My options are more likely partnership and love with a woman who is apt to humour and philosophy, and me a mentor to others in generations following mine as time unfolds and we never get the plot until its done? Maybe, maybe not, who knows, she knows, whoever this may be, a true spirit and lover would be fine!

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Americans would prefer UK troops to remain in position as long as they do

Ewen MacAskill in Washington, Julian Borger and Patrick Wintour

The Bush administration is becoming increasingly concerned about the impact of an imminent British withdrawal from southern Iraq and would prefer UK troops to remain for another year or two.

British officials believe that Washington will signal its intention to reduce US troop numbers after a much-anticipated report next month by its top commander in Iraq, General David Petraeus, clearing the way for Gordon Brown to announce a British withdrawal in parliament the following month. An official said: "We do believe we are nearly there."

It is not known whether George Bush expressed concern about the withdrawal of the remaining 5,000 British troops when he met Mr Brown in Washington last week. But sources, who spoke on condition of anonymity, said the administration was worried about the political consequences of losing British troops.

One source said: "If the difference is between the British leaving at the end of the year or staying through to next year or the year after, it is a safe assumption that President Bush would prefer them to stay as long as the Americans are there."

The Bush administration - focused on the north, west and central Iraq and the "surge" strategy that has seen 30,000 extra US troops deployed - has until recently ignored the south, content to leave it to the British. Now, however, it is beginning to pay attention to the region, amid the realisation that what has been portrayed as a success story is turning sour.

The UK government no longer claims Basra is a success but denies it is a failure, with British troops forced to abandon Basra city for the shelter of the airport.

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Well wrapped up, a terracotta army is prepared to take Britain by storm August 8 2007




Sophie Yu in Xian and Jane Macartney

Kneeling terracotta archer, one of only ten to be unearthed from around the tomb of China’s mighty first emperor, yesterday began his journey to London, where he will star in a huge exhibition opening next month at the British Museum.

Museum representatives and Chinese officials took dozens of photographs and compared notes carefully before signing handover documents in the complicated procedure to confide 20 warriors to British hands.

It is the first time that China has allowed such a large number of the warriors abroad, and after more than 2,000 years of guarding royalty through the afterlife, they will travel like a modern-day monarchy: so valuable are the figures — most are insured for between £750,000 and £1.5 million — that they will be flown to London on two flights, to reduce the risk of loss in the event of a crash.

It will be the first time that the British Museum has exhibited soldiers from the army that stands in pits near the ancient capital, Xian, to guard the tomb of Qin Shi Huangdi. The exhibition, China’s First Emperor: The Terracotta Army, opens on September 13.

So delicate are the figures that only five members of staff are qualified to pack them. Four were on hand yesterday to wrap the kneeling archer in his own custom-made crate.

First they stood the figure on a wooden base. Next they slid into place blocks of Styrofoam that were moulded to fit around his back and raised knee. Sponge wrapped in cloth was used to block any space between the warrior’s head and back and the rear of the box. More padding was placed at the front, then three loops of specially designed military rope were tied tightly around his upper body and knees. One of the packers, Li, said: “I’m not nervous that I will tie the rope too tightly and damage the figure. I have been doing this job for 20 years.”

The archer was then ready to begin his journey to Beijing and then on to London. The whole process took only ten minutes.

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Extinct: the dolphin that could not live alongside man August 8 2007



The Yangtze river dolphin is today declared extinct. It is the first large animal to be wiped from the planet for 50 years, and only the fourth entire mammal family to disappear in 500 years. And it was driven to its death by mankind...

By Jeremy Laurance

After more than 20 million years on the planet, the Yangtze river dolphin is today officially declared extinct, the first species of cetacean (whale, dolphin or porpoise) to be driven from this planet by human activity.

An intensive six-week search by an international team of marine biologists involving two boats that ploughed up and down the world's busiest river last December failed to find a single specimen.

Today, the scientific report of that expedition, published in the peer-reviewed journal of the Royal Society, Biology Letters, confirms the dolphin known as the baiji or white-fin in Chinese and celebrated for its pale skin and distinctive long snout, has disappeared.

To blame for its demise is the increasing number of container ships that use the Yangtze, as well as the fishermen whose nets became an inadvertent hazard.

This is no ordinary extinction of the kind that occurs frequently in a world of millions of still-evolving species. The Yangtze freshwater dolphin was a remarkable creature that separated from all other species so many millions of years ago, and had become so distinct, that it qualified as a mammal family in its own right. It is the first large vertebrate to have become extinct for 50 years and only the fourth entire mammal family to disappear since the time of Columbus, when Europeans began their colonisation of the world.

The three previous mammal families gone from the face of the Earth are the giant lemurs of Madagascar, which were eliminated in the 17th century, the island shrews of the West Indies, probably wiped out by the rats that accompanied Colombus on his voyage, and the Tasmanian tiger, the last known specimen of which died in captivity in 1936. (The most famous creature to have become extinct in the past 500 years, the Dodo, was a bird.)

Sam Turvey, conservation biologist at the Zoological Society of London, who led the expedition to find the Yangtze dolphin and is chief author of the paper, said: "The loss of such a unique and charismatic species is a shocking tragedy. This extinction represents the disappearance of a complete branch of the evolutionary tree of life and emphasises we have yet to take full responsibility in our role as guardians of the planet."

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Ghandi

There come to us moments in life when about some things we need no proof from without. A little voice within us tells us, 'You are on the right track, move neither to your left nor right, but keep to the straight and narrow way.

A person falsely claiming to act under divine inspiration or the promptings of the inner voice without having any such, will fare worse than the one falsely claiming to act under the authority of an earthly sovereign. Whereas the latter on being exposed will escape with injury to his body, the former may perish body and soul together.

You have to believe no one but yourselves. You must try to listen to the inner voice, but if you will not have the expression"inner voice", you may use the expression "dictates of reason", which you should obey, and if you will not parade God, I have no doubt you will parade something else which in the end will prove to be God, for, fortunately, there is no one and nothing else but God in this universe.

For me truth is the sovereign principle, which includes numerous other principles. This truth is not only truthfulness in word, but truthfulness in thought also, and not only the relative truth of our conception, but the Absolute Truth, the Eternal Principle, that is God. There are innumerable definitions of God, because His manifestations are innumerable. They overwhelm me with wonder and awe and for a moment stun me.




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