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There come to us moments in life when about some things we need no proof from without. A little voice within us tells us, 'You are on the right track, move neither to your left nor right, but keep to the straight and narrow way.

A person falsely claiming to act under divine inspiration or the promptings of the inner voice without having any such, will fare worse than the one falsely claiming to act under the authority of an earthly sovereign. Whereas the latter on being exposed will escape with injury to his body, the former may perish body and soul together.

You have to believe no one but yourselves. You must try to listen to the inner voice, but if you will not have the expression"inner voice", you may use the expression "dictates of reason", which you should obey, and if you will not parade God, I have no doubt you will parade something else which in the end will prove to be God, for, fortunately, there is no one and nothing else but God in this universe.

For me truth is the sovereign principle, which includes numerous other principles. This truth is not only truthfulness in word, but truthfulness in thought also, and not only the relative truth of our conception, but the Absolute Truth, the Eternal Principle, that is God. There are innumerable definitions of God, because His manifestations are innumerable. They overwhelm me with wonder and awe and for a moment stun me.









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DonInLondon - Life Matters July 29 2007

Indeed life matters! And listening carefully to others these last few weeks, seeking and getting good feedback, and hearing truth makes me feel more balanced today.

There are upheavals in my life, and in my family with a bereavement. I understand and have lived through bereavements before, and it makes it no less easy to deal with, other than knowing the process of grief, and becoming more able to face the unacceptable truth until I can accept it.

Life is our most precious gift. And in my experiences I have probably reason enough to complain like anyone that life is not so smooth most of the time. Actually life is never easy, there are consequences we may not really want from many things we have live through or with and still are here to share our experience.

Wisdom does not come easy. Hard work in all matters seems to be a key. And knowing limits and knowing boundaries is always good learning. I have had to learn all over again, I can push myself just so far and then be in much pain., and this was never quite the case before.

It matters not that I have limits, it matters if I ignore them and push on. Seems these days, some things take longer, some things are in repair, some things may never work again. I am still here though and life although hard, is still worth it, life does matter.

And its true we do keep adding to our learning provided we engage in living.

Living well, means we get everything in our emotional range and capacities. As I am probably well past my sell by date, I am pretty lucky all round to be here at all. Strange times too as our world seems to be suffering from climate change. And the worry I guess is how fast will these changes be?

Will I see big changes, or just changes locally. How may I respond and keep to the good of living. I don’t know yet, but its obvious we have messed up a lot on this planet and we have been less than good custodians of life for the future generations. We may have some circumspect moments and lifetimes for others to endure with less than before rather than plenty.

Recent days have been full of a roller coaster of emotion, over loss and grief. At the same time much to be happy for. That is to feel the sad and the joys of living. We get our range of emotions and breadth and depth as we encounter more living. Better with a clear head than one soaked in all manner of libations and attitudes formed in less sober days.

Temperate and not Obstinate

Yes more temperate these days, less pig headed and less driven to insane extremes to look right or feel there is something to prove. More in mind as a conservator and utility comes with a smaller carbon footprint.

I have learned much in the last few years and my usefulness has grown for myself and family and hopefully just spreading a message we can be ourselves and find our choices if indeed we let go old thoughts and notions. Knowing ones limits as much as ones potential is a real lesson they days..

So less driven and more accepting tonight.

Time spent with my Sister and Mother, a Sunday Lunch so rare in recent years was just delicious and in the best of company. It was a joy to have lunch, be helpful albeit in a small way, and just be able to chat and discuss recent family events. And of course talk about the world and what is interesting these days. We are all finding our feet after a loss. And still we need more time, even a lifetime to accept, as we do a manageable chunk of grieving as the days go by.

Some events and losses take eternity I feel. What we recall in the end is the good of life as has been and life to be lived. We may never replace anyone, we cannot forget the best of times, we can let tragedy fade as our minds follow and see the days unfold. We are lucky to have life to live. And these days me too, different certainly, and far from any life plan I ever envisaged.

Tonight great pleasure to hear and be part of a meeting of AA. A lot of us out and about. Alcoholics in recovery are often great company, endeavouring and making the best of what is in the day. A sombre lot we are when there is reason, happy and full of joy, now and then, and also capable of great understanding and support.

Life without the filters, is pretty much the best thing that ever happened to me. And along the way I have many fond memories as well as hardships. And I am just here one day only, and then start another, if its to be.

I am learning the pleasure of company, diversity of endeavours and beliefs in a fellowship as eclectic as any I have never joined! I have found this a little late in the game, it matters not one bit.

Forgiving and accepting so important right now, of me too I realise. At last a bit of balance as can be. We can celebrate life, and also those we miss, with gentleness and forgetting as we do, recalling good moments and tears shed for loss, it just as may be today…

Last Year much turmoil and still pretty angry in many ways as reflected in words below. As we go on our path we learn the importance of all experiences in this turbulent world, forever changing we need change with it..




July 30 2006 [ last year ]

Light and Dark of Living is not always to Egos’ Drift

Strange when we look at our living, we do so many things to make life work. Its our natural instinct to preserve ourselves and keep safe from harms way. And we are so complicated we don’t realise how we manage our perils. Easy perils of life come from natural origins like accidents and all manner of dangers we encounter. And there are many that are man made. And most man made perils these days come in the form of our upbringing and learning in our society and community. We find more danger from ourselves than we do the natural world. And our inside selves are most likely in the greatest peril.

I mention fellowship more often than not. Where I go to listen and hear the answers to my questions of life and living. A place where I find my own story told over and over, as if a ritual, I am part of a fellowship which shares experience strength and hope for living on a daily basis. And we are merely ordinary humans with a lot to learn to make ordinary lives more connected and work a day at a time.

When I talk of Ego’s drift what do I mean? Well… we all know we have ego somewhere inside us, and my version or defining of ego is really a negative way of exerting my will and preference on my living, and to an extent without thinking about others needs and desires. In this sense I put my needs and desires first, and so when I drift towards ego, I feel in many ways I do not work to the best of what I can do, I merely work to my agenda and most likely don’t even consider yours. So ego’s drift, that melancholy lonely move toward selfish outcomes rather than those which let selfless outcomes work. Ego’s drift where all my negative assertions come out and I might be less than the human I would want to be. Ego’s drift, where sanctimony and judgment hang me and condemn me with my God like take on world affairs, that is the drift to Ego I often mention. And in my world, the drift to ego is my place of denial where I don’t accept the outcomes life has dealt me, that place where I take over my world, and my small world works in separate splendour to the main event, the big world and real life with all it has to offer me, most of all choice to live in freedom from obsession and in confident knowledge that whatever happens is as it will, not through my will.

In truth when I see my drift to ego, it is denial of reality and how we live. As King Canute found he could not push back the tides of any sea, and so in life which works on happenstance as much as anything else, we need accept life on life’s terms. And that means in some degree of confidence we accept that life has ups and downs, is not meant to be fair to us and we are in as much peril and danger as the next human. And that luck does have a lot to do with chances we have. And some chances are less likely to happen as often for everyone.

But the chances are we all get a fair share of good and bad in living. Its just how we deal with it. And the drift to denial can lead to ego. But there are other parts of human spirit which don’t comply to being confident or having ego rule our lives. There are many other elements we have which protect us from this world and other human doings.

We have a world of fantasy, we have dreams which hold us to our goals, we have many memories we cherish and hold in our imaginations eye. And imagination makes for other worlds we inhabit when our real world is full of pain, and joy, for indeed our fantasy worlds exist where life turns out much to our detriment or even to our good.

Fear can drive us to our other worlds where safety works and keeps us safe from real harm and harms way. As if in shock from real life we can construct another world to live, and that is not part of ego’s drift. And certainly does not come from our confident being in a world that offers dangerous harms.

Which is why in our formative years, when we are young and making sense of all we see. There are times where our fantasy world will help us cope and keep us safe from perils we encounter. And when the peril is as bad can be and when our dangerous experience lends itself to shock us from the real world, we can make another to keep us safe till danger passes by. But some of us get stuck.

And when I was a kid and danger came my way, I found another me to place in this world as if in reality. And what I did kept me safe inside for many a long year as truth is told now, the little boy was kept away from harm. And another me grew up and dealt with real world events and living. It was me, made by me and not actually me, for indeed if I exposed myself the real me to truth, I would surely place myself in peril yet again and in harms way.

This is a tale of sadness, for I only used a part of me, to get on and live my life, and the whole of me kept from view, was safe from harm and being harmed by you. And this has sadness as I see my real self emerge decades later and find my path along this journey of life. And this is above all joyful, for I have found myself out!

Why hide and keep myself from harm experienced so long ago? Surely it passed me by a long time since? When we are young the bogeyman is there and waiting and keeps us fearful and in shame. As if in some way we feel inadequate we give ourselves a shell to wear, our mask for others to see.

And as we wear that mask each day, we bury in our deep inside the real human being we are, in case its not enough. As surely as we learn these habits, it costs us dear and we are lost if we never break that shell and let that mask fall away. We fear the vulnerability if we show our truth, and actually some us only learn about our way of living, when we are completely broken and need to find a way to mend ourselves, with help of course, for we are less likely to mend on our own as we find our way to ego’s drift…

For me my truths to come are about exploring beyond a breakdown so complete it took all the mask away, so carefully constructed over years, it takes some years to get to grips with finding out the truth of me, and let go the awful past, and cherish good memories in truth for we are surely as full of good we can be behind that mask we use.

And in that awful past, from being so small and hiding from my perils, I never really gave myself away to any human I might meet. And now I see the why of it, I can value what has happened along the way. There have been fantastic ups and downs in living, there have fantastic times and wonderful relationships, with others, and sadly not all of me was ever shared to the full extent. Except in rare moments where love was shared so deep and women who could let me be the real man and not the ever so clever me with a mask in place. Those moments cherished and quite rare I realise, and sadly those women no longer share my life as it is today. How could they live with me? I could barely live with myself…

Its is not surprising in my realisation of times past and masks worn along the way. And that I am not the only one wearing masks to hide the truth of who we are and might be. Indeed we all wear masks in life, as we face common perils along the way.

I encountered perilous times and kept myself hidden for decades as a consequence, and only now emerge to find out what I might become. And this is my hindsight and my benefit from fellowship and listening well to others stories and making good on life on life’s terms for this day. Fantasy is there when needed now, to fill a part of me, but as I open and reconstruct, with less of my mask in place these days, I find the strength to let me be a vulnerable learner yet again. And so I grow inside my mind , that spiritual self and let the world come in, and deal with peril every day, to love and loving life.

Its not as if I am half witted, for my mask kept me safe for many a year, but in reality, it kept me safe from finding me! And all along the way, with broken hearts and heartbreaking times, I see the harmful outcomes there. And wish it had been different, but hold myself to trust to new understanding and what might happen as I grow up. It does not change the good of my life and the better living I made, and much of what I did was good…

I know now where life can take me on this journey, to discover who I am. And in good conscience tread the path with careful steps for you and me along the way. And indeed those perils have not disappeared from life, its merely how I deal with them now and in the future. I take with cautious optimistic breath, another day to find out more about the real me. And share my secret with myself and you as well as I discover who I really am. Just a day at a time will do. And make friends with me and you. And maybe find love along the way as life may let me see there is hope and choice to let me share more and intimacy… Let’s just keep it in the day and keep a little fantasy too, or life would be out of balance..

So there is always ego’s drift, where we assert our negative take on life, where we hold our world and those in it to ransom so we get our will and way. Its not my preference I see, and yet I know its there in all of us as indignant selves feel its pull as our world goes tits up.

And in truth, I could not change my past, but recognise the journey as it has been, and see my relative successes along the way, for in hindsight’s myopic grip we can focus on selective parts and concentrate to good or bad. Its better with a balanced view to accept where we get to and what we are. And then make choices with reflection and responses to what we find is real. And know the world is the same for everyone, all learning or not as life has thrown them this way and that. We are broken and make repairs as safely as we dare, or don’t and remain broken and unfulfilled and fix ourselves with more despair. Or just never get the meaning of living ever. And we cannot fix others or fix ourselves in quick time as our world may prefer, we have to take due care, and take the time it needs to resolve who and what we are.

The journey is a lifetime long, and merely a day to go, its always so if we know the truth of living to the good we can encounter, and the opposite as life deals in happenstance and not predictions from ego‘s drift.

The more we impose our will on life the more we predict our outcomes. The more we narrow all our choice and keep ourselves confined to myths we have inside our heads. Those predictive wilful messages and horrid turbulent nastiness we can encounter as our will determines our fate, its surely quite predictable. That is ego’s drift, and we buy into horoscopes we read as ego plays its way and spoils our opportunity to find the being we can be. There is my judgment there, and not for me to ego’s drift, I prefer my happenstance and let my being free to roam and in good conscience operate to make this one day work for me and you.

We are forever being, and we become our true selves as we open up our inner reality and share with the world. Hard knocks will come and set us straight to hell or heavenly outcomes, or just to enjoy the moment of now in the ever present. Or sadness as happenstance offers.

Not knowing anything more of who I am than now, in good conscience I can be me, and find out more of me as time moves on. And with hindsight and an understanding of my living and the perils I may encounter, the inner me comes out to be, whoever that will be.

I find for years of pleasing others it hard to understand my fears of some emotions deep in me. About the understandings I have formed and suspended judgments for too long on who I might include in my living. And as surely as I wish to be open to everyone I meet, the doors may close more rapidly when I encounter ego’s drift and harsher peoples of this world who may never get life’s meaning ever. And their journey is not my business, what is mine is mine to work alongside those who are of similar mind. And let people be themselves. After all, I am merely here to understand on equal footing with all mankind. And as life has made it so, some are in and some are out, experience makes it so.

Equal to life and the equal of it? Some days yes and some days no, for my experience has shown my human qualities are there working as they may. And some days I don’t work too well and other days well indeed. I have a dark inside of me, it is there forever more. And serves to keep me from harms way, just some days and not every day, and not today unless some harm comes my way, and with serendipity I never know, but keep a more open mind to every element I encounter, as best I can and with wisdoms touch and decades of experience. That will do for now.

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Brown tries to shift Bush talks to trade and Darfur July 30 2007




Patrick Wintour in Washington and Ewen MacAskill

Gordon Brown arrived in Washington last night for his first meeting as prime minister with George Bush, determined to shift the focus from Iraq towards less divisive issues such as trade and Darfur.

Mr Brown, who is scheduled to hold formal talks today with Mr Bush and his team at Camp David, the presidential weekend retreat, praised Mr Bush and commended his leadership in the fight against international terrorism - but failed to mention the war in Iraq.

In a statement to journalists on the plane, Mr Brown said the US-British relationship was founded on common values of liberty, opportunity and the dignity of the individual. "And because of the values we share, the relationship with the United States is not only strong, but can become stronger in the years ahead," he said.

Mr Brown is intent on sustaining a juggling act in which he maintains the alliance with the US while showing it is not as tight as under Tony Blair.

He said he had many friends in America, visited the country frequently and regarded the alliance "as the single most important bilateral relationship that Britain enjoyed". He also singled out Mr Bush's efforts towards achieving a world trade deal and stopping the genocide in Sudan for praise.

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Criminal trial chaos over lack of judges July 30 2007




Sean O’Neill and Frances Gibb

An acute shortage of judges is causing long delays in bringing criminal trials to court, putting more pressure on overcrowded prisons and delaying justice for victims of crime.

The Times has learnt that Jack Straw, the Justice Secretary, received a list of approved candidates to fill the growing number of vacancies for Crown Court judges some weeks ago But Mr Straw has not indicated how many appointments he will make nor when he will announce them.

Retired judges are being pressed into service, and part-time recorders are being repeatedly asked to serve for longer periods. Such ad hoc measures save money because the Government does not have to pay holiday allowance or pension contributions for retired or part-time judges.

As the criminal justice system struggles to cope, serious cases are being put back until 2008 and overcrowded remand prisons are holding record numbers of inmates.

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Iraq: One in seven joins human tide spilling into neighbouring countries July 30 2007



Patrick Cockburn in Sulaymaniyah

Two thousand Iraqis are fleeing their homes every day. It is the greatest mass exodus of people ever in the Middle East and dwarfs anything seen in Europe since the Second World War. Four million people, one in seven Iraqis, have run away, because if they do not they will be killed. Two million have left Iraq, mainly for Syria and Jordan, and the same number have fled within the country.

Yet, while the US and Britain express sympathy for the plight of refugees in Africa, they are ignoring - or playing down- a far greater tragedy which is largely of their own making.

The US and Britain may not want to dwell on the disasters that have befallen Iraq during their occupation but the shanty towns crammed with refugees springing up in Iraq and neighbouring countries are becoming impossible to ignore.

Even so the UNHCR is having difficulty raising $100m (£50m) for relief. The organisation says the two countries caring for the biggest proportion of Iraqi refugees - Syria and Jordan - have still received "next to nothing from the world community". Some 1.4 million Iraqis have fled to Syria according to the UN High Commission for Refugees, Jordan has taken in 750 000 while Egypt and Lebanon have seen 200 000 Iraqis cross into their territories.

Potential donors are reluctant to spent money inside Iraq arguing the country has large oil revenues. They are either unaware, or are ignoring the fact that the Iraqi administration has all but collapsed outside the Baghdad Green Zone. The US is spending $2bn a week on military operations in Iraq according to the Congressional Research Service but many Iraqis are dying because they lack drinking water costing a few cents.

Kalawar refugee camp in Sulaymaniyah is a microcosm of the misery to which millions of Iraqis have been reduced.

"At least it is safe here," says Walid Sha'ad Nayef, 38, as he stands amid the stink of rotting garbage and raw sewage. He fled from the lethally dangerous Sa'adiyah district in Baghdad 11 months ago. As we speak to him, a man silently presents us with the death certificate of his son, Farez Maher Zedan, who was killed in Baghdad on 20 May 2006.

Kalawar is a horrible place. Situated behind a petrol station down a dusty track, the first sight of the camp is of rough shelters made out of rags, torn pieces of cardboard and old blankets. The stench is explained by the fact the Kurdish municipal authorities will not allow the 470 people in the camp to dig latrines. They say this might encourage them to stay.

"Sometimes I go to beg," says Talib Hamid al-Auda, a voluble man with a thick white beard looking older than his fifty years. As he speaks, his body shakes, as if he was trembling at the thought of the demeaning means by which he feeds his family. Even begging is difficult because the people in the camp are forbidden to leave it on Thursday, Friday and Saturday. Suspected by Kurds of being behind a string of house robberies, though there is no evidence for this, they are natural scapegoats for any wrong-doing in their vicinity.

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Ghandi

There come to us moments in life when about some things we need no proof from without. A little voice within us tells us, 'You are on the right track, move neither to your left nor right, but keep to the straight and narrow way.

A person falsely claiming to act under divine inspiration or the promptings of the inner voice without having any such, will fare worse than the one falsely claiming to act under the authority of an earthly sovereign. Whereas the latter on being exposed will escape with injury to his body, the former may perish body and soul together.

You have to believe no one but yourselves. You must try to listen to the inner voice, but if you will not have the expression"inner voice", you may use the expression "dictates of reason", which you should obey, and if you will not parade God, I have no doubt you will parade something else which in the end will prove to be God, for, fortunately, there is no one and nothing else but God in this universe.

For me truth is the sovereign principle, which includes numerous other principles. This truth is not only truthfulness in word, but truthfulness in thought also, and not only the relative truth of our conception, but the Absolute Truth, the Eternal Principle, that is God. There are innumerable definitions of God, because His manifestations are innumerable. They overwhelm me with wonder and awe and for a moment stun me.




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