You have the power to tolerate anyone and any situation. But tolerance is not just suffering in silence.
It means going beyond any personal discomfort you may feel, and giving a gift to whom ever you would tolerate. Give your time, attention, understanding, compassion, care - all are gifts, which paradoxically, you also receive in the process of giving.
And, as you do, you will experience your own self esteem and inner strength grow. In this way you can turn tolerance into strength.
Just for today I will try to live through this day only, and not tackle all my problems at once. I can do something for twelve hours that would appall me if I felt that I had to keep it up for a lifetime.
Just for today I will be happy. This assumes to be true what Abraham Lincoln said, that "Most folks are as happy as they make up their minds to be."
Just for today I will adjust myself to what is, and not try to adjust everything to my own desires, I will take my "luck" as it comes, and fit myself to it.
Just for today I will try to strengthen my mind. I will study. I will learn something useful. I will not be a mental loafer. I will read something that requires effort, thought and concentration.
Just for today I will exercise my soul in three ways: I will do somebody a good turn, and not get found out; if anybody knows of it, it will not count. I will do a least two things I don't want to do--just for exercise. I will not show anyone that my feelings are hurt; they may be hurt, but today I will not show it.
Just for today I will be agreeable. I will look as well as I can, dress becomingly, keep my voice low, be courteous, criticize not one bit. I won't find fault with anything, nor try to improve or regulate anybody but myself.
Just for today I will have a program. I may not follow it exactly, but I will have it. I will save myself from two pests: hurry and indecision.
Just for today I will have a quiet half hour all by myself, and relax. During this half hour, sometime, I will try to get a better perspective of my life.
Just for today I will be unafraid. Especially I will not be afraid to enjoy what is beautiful, and to believe that as I give to the world, so the world will give to me.
April 14 2007
Newcomers Welcome - DonInLondon ‘A Day In the Life’
A good day overall for Friday 13th 2007. I write this the evening before it appears on the website and most times you can find
my journal is published an hour or two in advance.
I guess as it was the 13th and the day can hold worries for us, a little bit of superstition and more care can also make us more
aware generally of the dangers we have every day. Simply riding round London on a bicycle like I do is enjoyable and quite
dangerous! Cars don’t see cyclists as particularly friendly beings, car drivers and I have been one too for over thirty years tend
to have attitudes about bikers in London.
So I was careful and got about to see my mother and also to get to a meeting tonight. In between there have been quite a few
calls and conversations.
The gift of being real comes to mind tonight and having listened to a person half my age learning how to live life head on
without the filters and denials so many of us pick up along the way. Well it was remarkable. This precious gift of connection and
seeing the real of living. I admire anyone who gets the message and especially another who sees the potential of life without
Seems hard to say this in some ways and for the newcomer tonight giving their first share as a chairperson, it seemed like the
benefit of oblivion that alcohol offered had well and truly been a welcome distraction and then the reality of it being the ruin of
living learned so young. And then the sadness as they realised living without a drink and being an alcoholic has this bitter sweet
irony. The one thing we loved and depended on now is our real enemy in very stark relief!
Is that we don’t have to drink every again, even though we seem programmed and determined to drink whenever the moment offers.
Somehow through the steps of change, the twelve steps of AA we learn to live life and have fun as a possibility and a career and a
way to make it all work in the day.
So although it may seem repetitive to keep on going to AA and meetings, its much more this. it’s the best therapy to be in
company who endeavour on a daily basis just to make life worth living again.
Being taken back tonight, the speaker or chairperson helped me see the things I often put at the back of my mind. My early years
and fearful living. A time when there was no peace of mind, a time where no matter how much I could be loved, there was always
something worrying me. Maybe I was just a sensitive type. It does not matter now, as I know exactly where I am today.
The reality, that living brings without filters is a place of acceptance some of the time and also worries as we are really
aware just how interdependent we all are.
I guess and realise in another country or another period of time, my life life would have ended long ago, simply because there
were no cures for my ailments.
And actually there no cures as yet for conditions I have, all three are life long and dependent on support and help. So there is
immense gratitude now. I also know there have been years in the past where living was so sad and desolate, it felt better to end it
than live another moment.
And without doubt I would have welcome d the ending if that had happened. So desolate were those times, I did not stay alive for
my own good, I stayed alive simply because of the pain possibly for others.
When we don’t know what is wrong with us and no one knows or can understand the darkness. Well I realise the difference these
days. And in recovery the dark is a real and frightening as ever. Yet I now know it does ease and life becomes more normal as time
Normality, as said so often this week the best in the last ten years, well its probably a lot longer than that. So oddly it
seems worthwhile and as a testament to love I guess being here at all and able to function as I do has much to do with family and
fellowship and a health service which keep me ticking over when nothing else could.
How would things have been if I had realised the things I do now, back some decades ago? Well there is no point wondering, but
there is a great sense of relief to see others coming into our fellowship early and making life work at a much younger age.
If nothing else, this fellowship has helped me see the value of living even through every moment in that fearful grip of
depression. If only I had known? Well it matters not, because now I do.
Tired and very accepting of life. And realising I have an opportunity daily to be involved included and a part of living.
Not bad really. There is more chaos to come, as time is passing. And some of the elements of dark are just beyond the boundaries
of my days of late. And this is where nerve and patience need most often be utilised. it’s the harder times as they manifest, not
in the living, but in the imagination and the potential and the distances of time. And so due care and attention at all times and
in all days to come. With gentle reflections anything may be possible just a day at a time..
Guardian Unlimited OnLine April 15 2007 Britain's fight against drugs 'a total failure' April 15 2007
Devastating report reveals soaring use among the young
Denis Campbell and Anushka Asthana
Government attempts to persuade thousands of young
people to stay away from drugs have failed and done nothing to curb the soaring popularity of illegal substances, a devastating
report will warn this week.
The number of young people using cocaine and cannabis has increased rapidly over the past 20 years despite high-profile
campaigns, such as the £9m 'Frank' initiative aimed at 11 to 15-year-olds, according to an in-depth examination of official efforts
to tackle Britain's chronic drug problem. It is also expected to claim that Britain's 'unusually severe drug problem compared with
that of our European neighbours' is linked to social and economic deprivation, that punitive laws have had little effect and that
police efforts to disrupt the drugs trade have also failed.
The royal split: ‘Wills met Kate five years too early’ April 15 2007
Jon Ungoed-Thomas and Christopher Morgan
PRINCE William’s romance with Kate Middleton was destined to fail because they met “five years too early”, close friends said
Confirmation of the split came as a shock after widespread predictions of a royal engagement this year. Friends said William and
Middleton would remain firm friends but the relationship, which started at university, had come when they were both too young.
It is understood that the couple broke up over the Easter weekend and that it was an “amicable” agreement. The Queen was
informed last week and was last night said to be “feeling for them both”.
William is understood to have become increasingly ill at ease recently over speculation that he would marry Middleton. He has
always felt that it would be unwise to marry before his late twenties.
The 'IoS' calls on every MP to read this story before tomorrow's debate
Locked up, drugged & abused: the shocking story of Jack, 16
By Sophie Goodchild and Marie Woolf
The Independent on Sunday today urges all MPs to read the
story of one child's treatment under Britain's current outdated and draconian mental health laws.
Jack Owen was just 16 when he was sexually assaulted by a male patient, verbally abused and locked up in a windowless cell on an
adult psychiatric ward. His story, told here for the first time, is a damning indictment of Britain's mental health service.
Tomorrow, the Government will attempt to force through its mental health reforms - reforms that this newspaper opposes and which
experts warn ignore the care and treatment needs of thousands of vulnerable children like Jack.
The IoS has been campaigning for nearly five years for the rights of people with mental health problems to be respected. The
campaign has been backed by leading medical and psychiatric experts as well as figures from politics, the media and the arts. Lord
Bragg described the campaign as: "Useful, important and corrective. There have been an awful lot of injustices and an awful
lot of neglect. Exposing what is going on is very important.
Now we are calling on MPs to accept a series of amendments put forward by the House of Lords, which psychiatrists, mental health
charities and patients have said would help to create laws fit for the 21st century.
These include the demand that children be treated in wards suitable for their age, not with adults, and be assessed by specially
Today we also publish figures from the charity Young Minds which expose the "national scandal" of how children as
young as 12 are incarcerated with often extremely disturbed adults and end up more traumatised than when they went in for
The study found that one child every day is admitted to an adult mental health ward under section; that more than three-quarters
of girls are detained on mixed-sex wards; that the average stay is at least one month; and that children face a postcode lottery
Kathryn Pugh, head of policy at YoungMinds said: "Unless changes are made in the law, children will continue to be at risk,
and their chances of recovery seriously jeopardised."
Critics are warning that the Government is risking a damaging and drawn-out battle over the Bill because it is not prepared to
listen to the combined expertise of mental health professionals, peers and patients.
Ministers have insisted it is necessary to get people with severe disorders off the streets, even if there is no treatment
available. This has been a major source of opposition - especially from psychiatrists, who believe they will be turned into
The Lords are demanding that only people with conditions that can be treated should be sectioned and placed in mental hospitals.
They also want to water down the use of community treatment orders, dubbed "psychiatric Asbos", so that their use is
restricted to patients who have a history of refusing medication.
But it is understood that the Government is not prepared to make any concessions and has put Labour MPs on a three-line whip in
an attempt to bulldoze the Bill through.
As a result, the Tories plan to hold their own special committee hearing next week on the Bill so that patients and campaigners
get the opportunity to voice their concerns in public.
April 15 1945: British troops liberate Bergen-Belsen
British troops have entered the German concentration camp of Bergen-Belsen.
Inside the camp the horrified soldiers found piles of dead and rotting corpses and thousands of sick and starving prisoners kept
in severely overcrowded and dirty compounds.
Belsen, near Hanover in Germany, is the first concentration camp to be liberated by the British. Details of the conditions
inside are likely to horrify a public which until now has only heard limited descriptions from the camps in Poland freed by the Red
The first British soldiers who entered Bergen-Belsen have described seeing a huge pile of dead, naked women's bodies within full
view of several hundred children held at the camp.
There come to us moments in life when about some things we need no proof from without. A little voice within us tells us, 'You are on the right track, move neither to your left nor right, but keep to the straight and narrow way.
A person falsely claiming to act under divine inspiration or the promptings of the inner voice without having any such, will fare worse than the one falsely claiming to act under the authority of an earthly sovereign. Whereas the latter on being exposed will escape with injury to his body, the former may perish body and soul together.
You have to believe no one but yourselves. You must try to listen to the inner voice, but if you will not have the expression"inner voice", you may use the expression "dictates of reason", which you should obey, and if you will not parade God, I have no doubt you will parade something else which in the end will prove to be God, for, fortunately, there is no one and nothing else but God in this universe.
For me truth is the sovereign principle, which includes numerous other principles. This truth is not only truthfulness in word, but truthfulness in thought also, and not only the relative truth of our conception, but the Absolute Truth, the Eternal Principle, that is God. There are innumerable definitions of God, because His manifestations are innumerable. They overwhelm me with wonder and awe and for a moment stun me.
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