You have the power to tolerate anyone and any situation. But tolerance is not just suffering in silence.
It means going beyond any personal discomfort you may feel, and giving a gift to whom ever you would tolerate. Give your time, attention, understanding, compassion, care - all are gifts, which paradoxically, you also receive in the process of giving.
And, as you do, you will experience your own self esteem and inner strength grow. In this way you can turn tolerance into strength.
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A good day overall for Friday 13th 2007. I write this the evening before it appears on the website and most times you can find
my journal is published an hour or two in advance.
I guess as it was the 13th and the day can hold worries for us, a little bit of superstition and more care can also make us more
aware generally of the dangers we have every day. Simply riding round London on a bicycle like I do is enjoyable and quite
dangerous! Cars donít see cyclists as particularly friendly beings, car drivers and I have been one too for over thirty years tend
to have attitudes about bikers in London.
So I was careful and got about to see my mother and also to get to a meeting tonight. In between there have been quite a few
calls and conversations.
The gift of being real comes to mind tonight and having listened to a person half my age learning how to live life head on
without the filters and denials so many of us pick up along the way. Well it was remarkable. This precious gift of connection and
seeing the real of living. I admire anyone who gets the message and especially another who sees the potential of life without
Seems hard to say this in some ways and for the newcomer tonight giving their first share as a chairperson, it seemed like the
benefit of oblivion that alcohol offered had well and truly been a welcome distraction and then the reality of it being the ruin of
living learned so young. And then the sadness as they realised living without a drink and being an alcoholic has this bitter sweet
irony. The one thing we loved and depended on now is our real enemy in very stark relief!
Is that we donít have to drink every again, even though we seem programmed and determined to drink whenever the moment offers.
Somehow through the steps of change, the twelve steps of AA we learn to live life and have fun as a possibility and a career and a
way to make it all work in the day.
So although it may seem repetitive to keep on going to AA and meetings, its much more this. itís the best therapy to be in
company who endeavour on a daily basis just to make life worth living again.
Being taken back tonight, the speaker or chairperson helped me see the things I often put at the back of my mind. My early years
and fearful living. A time when there was no peace of mind, a time where no matter how much I could be loved, there was always
something worrying me. Maybe I was just a sensitive type. It does not matter now, as I know exactly where I am today.
The reality, that living brings without filters is a place of acceptance some of the time and also worries as we are really
aware just how interdependent we all are.
I guess and realise in another country or another period of time, my life life would have ended long ago, simply because there
were no cures for my ailments.
And actually there no cures as yet for conditions I have, all three are life long and dependent on support and help. So there is
immense gratitude now. I also know there have been years in the past where living was so sad and desolate, it felt better to end it
than live another moment.
And without doubt I would have welcome d the ending if that had happened. So desolate were those times, I did not stay alive for
my own good, I stayed alive simply because of the pain possibly for others.
When we donít know what is wrong with us and no one knows or can understand the darkness. Well I realise the difference these
days. And in recovery the dark is a real and frightening as ever. Yet I now know it does ease and life becomes more normal as time
Normality, as said so often this week the best in the last ten years, well its probably a lot longer than that. So oddly it
seems worthwhile and as a testament to love I guess being here at all and able to function as I do has much to do with family and
fellowship and a health service which keep me ticking over when nothing else could.
How would things have been if I had realised the things I do now, back some decades ago? Well there is no point wondering, but
there is a great sense of relief to see others coming into our fellowship early and making life work at a much younger age.
If nothing else, this fellowship has helped me see the value of living even through every moment in that fearful grip of
depression. If only I had known? Well it matters not, because now I do.
Tired and very accepting of life. And realising I have an opportunity daily to be involved included and a part of living.
Not bad really. There is more chaos to come, as time is passing. And some of the elements of dark are just beyond the boundaries
of my days of late. And this is where nerve and patience need most often be utilised. itís the harder times as they manifest, not
in the living, but in the imagination and the potential and the distances of time. And so due care and attention at all times and
in all days to come. With gentle reflections anything may be possible just a day at a time..
Chancellor Gordon Brown has had private talks with US President George W Bush, American officials have confirmed.
In their first face-to-face meeting, the two men spent 45 minutes at the White House discussing Afghanistan and Iraq, as well as
It is thought the meeting was unplanned and was suggested by Mr Bush, who knew the chancellor was at the White House talking to
national security officials.
Mr Brown is in Washington for meetings at the International Monetary Fund.
The BBC's Robin Brant said the meeting was the "strongest sign yet" of preparations being made on both sides of the
Atlantic for the prospect of Mr Brown representing the UK on the international stage as prime minister.
Courage and caution, driving forces behind man who would be king April 14 2007
With the next few months likely to be the most crucial in the chancellor's career, Ian Jack spoke to the man aiming to become
the next prime minister, in the face of difficult odds and not least a strange mixture of love and loathing from members of his own
Gordon Brown lives in a house that I once delivered
newspapers to, so it was odd to walk up his drive this week and think of this house as the home of the next British prime minister,
who could also turn out to be the last British prime minister, depending on the election results in Edinburgh next month.
The house is in the very best part of North Queensferry, Fife, but is not in itself distinguished. Unusually for a villa built
in late Victorian Scotland, the walls are unrendered red-brick and the roof flat. You might even say it was a cautious kind of
house. The chancellor's house, sits on on the crest of a hill looking east down the Firth of Forth, which was blue last Tuesday
morning: a beautiful panorama of sea, islands and distant hills.
Women to receive less in divorce settlements April 14 2007
Michael Herman and Dominic Kennedy
The balance of power in divorces tilted away from wives yesterday as a judge warned that ex-husbands could not be expected to
provide women with a share of future earnings for life.
Englandís reputation as the most female-friendly place for divorce was dented when a wife who did not have a job was refused
£1.5 million compensation for loss of her banker husbandís future pay.
Mr Justice Charles said in the High Court that anyone given an adequate lump sum could not expect a share of future
The case before him concerned Mr and Mrs H who met at St Johnís College, Oxford, in 1982 and married three years later. She gave
up her job as a teacher to follow him to a posting with a bank in Tokyo, and took charge of caring for their four children, now
aged 9 to 19. Mr H formed a new relationship in 2004 and left their £2.7 million marital home, which the wife will keep, after 20
years of marriage.
The sunshine superstar: study reveals Vitamin D as 'wonder vitamin' April 14 2007
By Jeremy Laurance, Health Editor
Twenty minutes' lying in the sun this weekend could provide your best chance of avoiding colds and flu, according to new research which demonstrates that vitamin D, not vitamin C, provides the most efficient protection against cold viruses.
The exceptional spring weather, which is forecast to continue into next week with a high of 24C today, will offer the best opportunity so far this year to top up D-levels that have become depleted over the winter, scientists say.
Vitamin D is created by the action of sunlight on the skin and levels in all UK residents are at their lowest at this time of year, after the long winter. Short days and cloudy skies mean 60 per cent of the British population are deficient by the start of spring.
The malign consequences have been revealed by in a study from the United States which shows that boosting vitamin D may be the most effective way of warding off infections that cause winter colds.
The authors, from Winthrop University Hospital, Mineola, New York, who publish their findings in the journal Epidemiology and Infection, say vitamin D stimulates "innate immunity" by activating peptides in the body that attack bacteria, fungi and viruses.
"Vitamin D supplementation, particularly with higher doses, may protect against the typical winter cold and flu ... Since there is an epidemic of vitamin D insufficiency in the US, the public health impact of this observation could be great," they write.
Traditional advice has been to swallow large doses of vitamin C at the first sign of a sniffle. But the latest findings suggest we may have been turning to the wrong vitamin. The revelation is the latest addition to a long list of scientific studies highlighting the beneficent qualities of a previously underrated health resource.
There come to us moments in life when about some things we need no proof from without. A little voice within us tells us, 'You are on the right track, move neither to your left nor right, but keep to the straight and narrow way.
A person falsely claiming to act under divine inspiration or the promptings of the inner voice without having any such, will fare worse than the one falsely claiming to act under the authority of an earthly sovereign. Whereas the latter on being exposed will escape with injury to his body, the former may perish body and soul together.
You have to believe no one but yourselves. You must try to listen to the inner voice, but if you will not have the expression"inner voice", you may use the expression "dictates of reason", which you should obey, and if you will not parade God, I have no doubt you will parade something else which in the end will prove to be God, for, fortunately, there is no one and nothing else but God in this universe.
For me truth is the sovereign principle, which includes numerous other principles. This truth is not only truthfulness in word, but truthfulness in thought also, and not only the relative truth of our conception, but the Absolute Truth, the Eternal Principle, that is God. There are innumerable definitions of God, because His manifestations are innumerable. They overwhelm me with wonder and awe and for a moment stun me.
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