You have the power to tolerate anyone and any situation. But tolerance is not just suffering in silence.
It means going beyond any personal discomfort you may feel, and giving a gift to whom ever you would tolerate. Give your time, attention, understanding, compassion, care - all are gifts, which paradoxically, you also receive in the process of giving.
And, as you do, you will experience your own self esteem and inner strength grow. In this way you can turn tolerance into strength.
Fear Of Life - DonInLondon Good Thursday For Good Friday
I am writing this on the eve of "Good Friday," so its "Good Thursday." And this week is probably the calmest week I had had in ten or fifteen years, if not longer.
Some horrible things happened to me in the 1990’s and as you might understand if you have read any of my story or heard it, I come from a long period of drinking in my life and a longer period of depression, a key feature of me over the decades.
Fear of Life
Why am I so inclined to share this part of me? Well for years I hid my fears with a brave face taught me in my childhood. No blame here by the way, the brave face came from listening to parents, teachers and the like. Listening to how other kids were. Yet the fear was in me from the start, don’t know why, now I don’t really have to worry what about. Something about life was always fearful. I knew life could be vicious from beatings I saw other kids get, and the imagined beatings I might find were waiting and lurking around every corner.
This was just me, and the just me would hide and find the path of least resistance, please as many people as I could and just get on with life. It took me places, to a good career and killed the career stone dead somehow somewhere, when the awfulness of others became too much for even me to bear. That was the end of a big career, the details are morbid and I don’t travel there much these days in my memories.
I had my head well and truly mauled by other things like death, and loss of love too. I always thought by pleasing and loving women, my life would feel fulfilled. I doubt I really felt love quite the way it can be. Looking back, I never felt secure in the biggest relationships in my life, that was me not them. I don’t blame anyone for this and know now I was loved, yet understood the transience of that love as partners I had were destined to leave. Were they like me? Some were for sure, still seeking and not quite equipped for life as we can come to understand it.
Emotional trauma medicated away for years. Easier to see life in its saddest state and not ever deal with the real me inside.
Why so? Well how many of us really know the truth of the depths we can experience, when our whole society tends to alleviate the pain in one way or another. Mine was drink. And yet most people don’t follow me into the darkest corners of hell.
It was a shock to realise at my age I am still learning so much and have so much more to learn. And a nice shock actually.
Some people never get a chance to explore the real of life. Some people follow a path as laid down and expected. Some people are happy and complete. And some people are just never alive long enough!
In this haphazard existence of living its always hard to know quite how things are. And what we might do with life.
Now some time into sobriety, a daily experience for me, I learning more fundamentals and elementary steps to living for the first time.
I am no dunce when it comes to living, yet today I am gratified to get the point. The point is each day really is a gift one way or another. And although I know there will be dark days again, getting a few good ones in a row has perked me up no end!
The absolute gift is having a fellowship where people from all walks of life get together and share experience of life. As well as experience of fearing life itself and wishing death were here and we were gone.
I am surprised to realise that tonight is the calmest I have been in years, just being, being me. Probably the sanest I have been in my adult life, and just understanding this truth.
Two women among four UK soldiers killed by bomb - Blair hints at Iranian support for attacks
Richard Norton-Taylor and Michael Howard
As 15 sailors and marines were celebrating their release by the Iranian government, the bloody reality of the conflict in which they were embroiled struck British soldiers yesterday on the streets of southern Iraq.
Four soldiers on patrol in a Warrior armoured vehicle in Basra were killed, and another seriously injured, by a powerful roadside bomb in one of the worst attacks on British forces since the invasion of Iraq four years ago.
Last night the Ministry of Defence confirmed that two men and two women had died in the attack, along with a Kuwaiti civilian interpreter. "The soldiers were from the Intelligence Corps, the 2nd Battalion The Duke of Lancaster's Regiment, and two from the Royal Army Medical Corps. Next of kin have been informed and have requested a 24-hour period before further details are released," an MoD statement said. The two female soldiers are understood to be from the Intelligence Corps and the Medical Corps.
Blair attacks Iran as Basra deaths overshadow the hostages' return
April 6 2007
By Kim Sengupta
It was meant to be a day to celebrate the homecoming of the hostages from Iran. "Rejoice" said Tony Blair. But then came the dark shadow of Iraq, four British soldiers - two of them women - killed and another severely wounded in a roadside ambush in Basra.
The attack, in which a Kuwaiti interpreter was also killed, shattered whatever hopes had emerged of better relations with Iran following the release of the British prisoners.
The Prime Minister directly linked the Tehran regime to killings of British soldiers in Iraq, accusing it of "backing, financing, arming terrorism".
Senior UK military officers and diplomats have for months accused Iran of supplying Shia insurgents in Iraq with sophisticated explosive devices which have been used to kill and maim British and American soldiers. The Iranians have denied the claims and, in turn, accused "British agents" of carrying out bombings on its territory.
The co-ordinated attack in Basra came at just after 11 pm - around the same time the 15 marines and sailors were preparing to board their British Airways flight in Tehran, clutching presents given to them by the Iranian government.
Yesterday's killings brought the number killed in the past seven days to six. Kingsman Danny John Wilson, 28, of 2nd Battalion, the Duke of Lancaster's Regiment, and Rifleman Aaron Lincoln, of the 2nd Battalion, The Rifles, were killed on Sunday and Monday by sniper fire. Their bodies were returned to RAF Lyneham yesterday around the same time the freed hostages were arriving in Britain.
April 6 1968: United States erupts in race violence
Dozens of major cities in the United States have been rocked by an escalation in the race riots which began two days ago.
At least 19 people have died so far in the arson, looting and shootings provoked by the assassination of black civil rights leader Martin Luther King on 4 April.
Several hundred have also been injured and about 3,000 people have been arrested - most of those in Washington DC.
Curfews are in place in many areas of the country and National Guard soldiers have been mobilised to help quell the violence which is threatening to engulf the US in a race war.
Twelve thousand troops in the nation's capital were called on to help protect fire fighters tackling at least eight blazes started by rioters.
There come to us moments in life when about some things we need no proof from without. A little voice within us tells us, 'You are on the right track, move neither to your left nor right, but keep to the straight and narrow way.
A person falsely claiming to act under divine inspiration or the promptings of the inner voice without having any such, will fare worse than the one falsely claiming to act under the authority of an earthly sovereign. Whereas the latter on being exposed will escape with injury to his body, the former may perish body and soul together.
You have to believe no one but yourselves. You must try to listen to the inner voice, but if you will not have the expression"inner voice", you may use the expression "dictates of reason", which you should obey, and if you will not parade God, I have no doubt you will parade something else which in the end will prove to be God, for, fortunately, there is no one and nothing else but God in this universe.
For me truth is the sovereign principle, which includes numerous other principles. This truth is not only truthfulness in word, but truthfulness in thought also, and not only the relative truth of our conception, but the Absolute Truth, the Eternal Principle, that is God. There are innumerable definitions of God, because His manifestations are innumerable. They overwhelm me with wonder and awe and for a moment stun me.
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