You have the power to tolerate anyone and any situation. But tolerance is not just suffering in silence.
It means going beyond any personal discomfort you may feel, and giving a gift to whom ever you would tolerate. Give your time, attention, understanding, compassion, care - all are gifts, which paradoxically, you also receive in the process of giving.
And, as you do, you will experience your own self esteem and inner strength grow. In this way you can turn tolerance into strength.
Its been an interesting time of late. And I am sometimes a very slow learner. Actually I am glad I do take time to learn because then whatever I need learn seems to sink in and be there with more permanence.
Experience of life is the best of learning when we are in a fellowship like mine. Having lost our reason and our sanity, driven mad by obsession and addiction, it is a hard road back to a life and sobriety.
Gone are most the trappings of the old life. And even the odd thinking and feelings which held me in the sway of booze and lovelorn times. Its all changing day by day.
Our principal speaker "the chair" tonight said many things I have come to understand in the last few years. I realise that intellect and drink enabled a view of life which I wouldn’t want back. That life is and always will be an art. That spiritual in its true sense is simply seeing reality with no filters and no bias or denial.
Society it seems plays tricks on us poor humans, we can loose sight of the gift of living so easily and be forever worried and concerned we are not enough as we are. Yet the plain truth of happiness is discovering what we are and who we are is in our minds eye always. And the better informed we are, the better we see living and our endeavour in the true light.
Chasing dreams, even chasing those dragons, chasing imaginings, striving for that Elysium Field.. When indeed with some hard graft and simple outlooks we have everything on our doorstep.
I am not quite sure what I am saying, but some other things have happened of late..
Indeed one of the principles to a happy life is to let go judgment of others and their affairs. Be involved and make choices and also ask ourselves where we are in our living and associations. Whatever we do, we need see our part, our behaviour and our connections to life and living.
Yes we can become very sanctimonious and self seeking, self absorbed and self oriented. And we can be insufferable judges of others. Not so nice!
Yet we are apt to do just that when we feel out of sorts, less than or insecure in some way. We feel judgemental!
And tonight as I listened and heard lots of experience strength and hope.
I saw the truth of everything anyone can be!
We could be anything from contract killer to saint, and anywhere in between if we choose the wrong path, if we acted on our feelings most of the time without the niceties of society to hold us back. In our heads our personal power can swell beyond reality in no time!
And so as time permits, and with me it does take time, a pause for reflection.
I need only regulate me and my actions, and whatever others are doing its not for me to compare or judge. I have enough on my plate with living my life. And making necessary changes as life permits.
Patience and keeping to a set of principles which keep life simple, focussed and very much in the day, utilising all my brain power in whatever way it may work. Not to undermine or judge much of anything but me.
Of course there are exceptions..
Smiles here and no doubt as time enables I may share more on those as life unfolds.
Rule of thumb though is regulate me, and no doubt the rest of living will fall in to place.
As life makes possible new and more profound opportunities, well we shall have chances we never thought possible. Even when life gives us a disease or two, it sharpens our outlook or we slide into denials.
Denial an ever present danger. Dishonesty just around the corner, deception can be a way of life. Less so these days.
As to progress, I am making some and will make more.
Yes tonight has ended really very well with a long conversation over the phone. And tranquillity for now. Turmoil no doubt can come crashing through as I write, not yet, not yet.
Black Tuesday sees Brown battered on all sides March 21, 2007
Black Tuesday for Chancellor - Philip Webster, Political Editor and Jill Sherman, Whitehall Editor
Some of Britain’s highest-ranking officials said yesterday that they supported the devastating attack on Gordon Brown by Lord Turnbull, the former head of the Civil Service, who accused him of “Stalinist ruthlessness”.
The Times can disclose that Sir Gus O’Donnell, the current Cabinet Secretary, and other Whitehall heads are discussing Mr Brown’s style of government and whether and how it might be changed if he enters No 10. The Chancellor delivers his last Budget today battered by the revolt by officials, fears of rising mortgages, the worst inflation figures since 1991 and with one poll suggesting that David Cameron’s lead would stretch to 15 points if Mr Brown were prime minister.
Half a dozen acting permanent secretaries and even more who are retired have voiced concerns about Mr Brown’s manner. Peter Riddell reveals on page 6 that they are planning informal contacts with the Brown circle to avoid his Treasury style being adopted in No 10.
Mr Brown will fight back with his eleventh Budget. The Times has learnt that he will announce an extra £80 million for the security services, about £400 million for Iraq and Afghanistan and as much as £1 billion for child poverty.
Brown's final budget: £1bn extra for child poverty
March 21 2007
Larry Elliott and Patrick Wintour
Gordon Brown will announce today that the government is to spend an extra £1bn to lift 200,000 children out of poverty as he uses his final budget to help put Labour back on track to meet its target for alleviating deprivation among the young.
Stung by a UN report showing the UK as the worst place in the developed world to grow up, Mr Brown will increase spending on tax credits for the working poor and on raising child benefits.
He will make investment in children the centrepiece of today's package, using it to sketch out some of the themes of his premiership should he succeed Tony Blair this year.
The additional spending on child poverty will be accompanied by an announcement that education will be the biggest winner from this year's spending review, with extra resources earmarked over the three years from 2008 to start bridging the gap on spending per pupil between state and private schools.
There come to us moments in life when about some things we need no proof from without. A little voice within us tells us, 'You are on the right track, move neither to your left nor right, but keep to the straight and narrow way.
A person falsely claiming to act under divine inspiration or the promptings of the inner voice without having any such, will fare worse than the one falsely claiming to act under the authority of an earthly sovereign. Whereas the latter on being exposed will escape with injury to his body, the former may perish body and soul together.
You have to believe no one but yourselves. You must try to listen to the inner voice, but if you will not have the expression"inner voice", you may use the expression "dictates of reason", which you should obey, and if you will not parade God, I have no doubt you will parade something else which in the end will prove to be God, for, fortunately, there is no one and nothing else but God in this universe.
For me truth is the sovereign principle, which includes numerous other principles. This truth is not only truthfulness in word, but truthfulness in thought also, and not only the relative truth of our conception, but the Absolute Truth, the Eternal Principle, that is God. There are innumerable definitions of God, because His manifestations are innumerable. They overwhelm me with wonder and awe and for a moment stun me.
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