March 14th 2006

copyright don oddy

~ please please me~

We often find ourselves involved in pleasing others. We do this because pleasing others can make us feel good, have a purpose, all sorts of reasons which can be seen as good and valuable. Sometimes society, our family and those we hold in esteem can influence us to involve ourselves in activities we would rather avoid.

We are taught a sense of duty that we have responsibilities to behave in certain ways. We are led to believe we have obligations to others. We often do things to please others because we love them. Sometimes the love we have for others is less balanced than we might hope. And sometimes our feelings of love for others can lead to us behaving to our detriment.

When we please others we might consider the why and the how. We might consider our actions and behaviour and the emotional and rational reasons. We can please some of the people some of the time, we cannot please all the people all of the time.

And we are wise when we consider pleasing ourselves. We have this life, finite and the equal of any other life. This life is no more or less important than any other. Be mindful and careful with our equal status, that we make use of time, of love and commitment as we please others and ourselves.